The concept of Love and Let is simple: Use love to inform and inspire your thoughts, words, and actions. Then trust in that love so that you can let go of your emotional attachment to outcome.
Everyone has prayed or at least read the following prayer:
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
It’s a beautiful prayer. But we can do better. Let me explain.
God grant me the serenity. Let’s break this sentence down. God grant me. If you ask for God to grant you a million dollars, what happens? He is willing to help, but you have to work your ass off to get it. You have to do your part – meet God halfway. God grant me the serenity. Serenity is defined a state of utter calm or unruffled repose; tranquility; clear and free of storms and unpleasant change. Which is the bigger ask…a million dollars or serenity? If you have to work your ass off for a million dollars, what do you think you have to do for serenity? You gotta do your part.
To accept the things I cannot change. To…This is an important word because as a continuation of sentence from the first line, it informs us that you have to have serenity first. So before anything else, you must already in a state of serenity. To accept the things I cannot change. In other words, let go of your emotional attachment to outcome. You cannot expect to be able to accept anything until you have done your work to be “granted” serenity. But how do you know what work you have to do? How do you “work your ass off” for serenity?
Courage to change the things I can. There’s your answer. This is how you meet God halfway to serenity. This is also the front side of Love and Let. It takes freakish courage to lead with love in all that you say and do. Generally speaking it is always better to be proactive than reactive. Through Love you “change the things I can” before they even go astray. Make this change proactively and events in your life will become a result of love and will unfold more softly and you will be in a better state of mind to handle challenges and misfortune. For you control freaks – this is how you control…not in response to life, but in front of it. Courage to change things…Have the courage to lead with love in all you say and do.
And wisdom to know the difference. If you follow the formula, this now becomes a lot easier.
I suggest we change the order of the prayer to ask for
- Courage to change what you can first (through Love)
- Wisdom to know what and how you may best effect this change
- Serenity in knowing you did your part, God will do his, and one cannot do the other
- Acceptance of the result instead of anxiety
Have a great day!
Love and Let 