As we are about to face ice and snow in the next couple of days, I am reminiscing about a day earlier this year when I played golf in a charity golf tournament and the weather was AMAZING. Not a cloud in the sky, low humidity, 82 degrees…just perfect. Everybody was talking about how incredible the weather was on that day. I heard somebody remark, “I wish every day could be like this.”
But, here’s the problem: if the weather was perfect every day, we would no longer slowly lose our appreciation for it. It’s because of the cold that we appreciate the mild. It’s because of the wind that we appreciate the calm. It’s because of the rain that we appreciate the sun.
The truism used in the example of why we appreciate incredible weather can be applied in all aspects of life. Without ugly, we wouldn’t understand beautiful. If we never worked, we could never appreciate break time. If you were never sad, you wouldn’t even understand the concept of happiness.
Ugliness and beauty, work and break, sadness and happiness are only possible because of each other. Each example, and it’s antithesis are two sides of the same coin. They work in tandem with each other along with every degree of measure in between the two extremes. This very idea is depicted in the common depiction of yin and yang.
Beauty is not complete or even possible without ugly. It is never completely devoid of it. Ugly exists within beauty and vice versa.
Why does any of this matter? Because peace lies in this knowledge. The Wu Ji point in the center of the yin and yang represents the a place where you can be at all times. A place in which you love and appreciate ugliness and beauty just the same.
Paradoxical unity is a term that means that all points within the circle above are in unity with it’s opposite and every other place in the circle. Do what we perceive as beauty and ugliness not both come from God? It is only our judgments and labels that separate this from that, yin from yang and ugly from beauty.
The same is true for everything in life. Tall does not exist without short, kind without mean, male without female, comfort without insecurity, fast without slow, etc. Things only seem as they are because of the assessments we make about them and the words we use to label them; the comparisons we make to other things. The emphasis is that you have some degree of gratitude for everything in life; that you should judge the 
“unwanted” a little less harshly. Just let things be without assigning a grade to everything.
I present these ideas to you so that we can succeed in becoming a little less judgmental and a little more loving; so you can let go of anger; be a little more at peace with what is, even if what is, is a rainy, cold, windy day.
Love and Let 