So…a few days ago I was told by a friend that another person said some unkind and untrue things about me. I am usually pretty good at letting things bounce off and not being affected by things like this, but what was said were just the right words to hit me hard. My armor against these types of attacks has very few holes, but this attack slipped right into one of those crevices.
It sent me into a bit of a mental spiral. I had a REALLY strong conversation with this person and said a lot of pointed and damaging things to this person…just in my head of course. You know what I mean, the conversation or confrontation that takes places between two people only in the mind of one of those people.
I was really giving it to him (in my mind) while I was driving through the rain in my car. Then, when I was really ramping up my attacks, I saw a big rainbow in the sky in front of me (not in my mind). I was immediately drawn out of my goofy make believe battle and was reminded of the bigger picture. I realized that I was allowing this person to have an affect on me. I was giving him permission to have control over my thoughts. I was getting caught up in being “right”.
I was not practicing what I preach. I was obsessing, not letting it be. I was not letting go.
One of my favorite sayings is one that I stole from Dr. Wayne Dyer:
“What other people think of you is none of your business.”
In other words, just because someone thinks and says to others that you are X, it doesn’t mean that you are X. It usually means that they have insecurities about their own X, and their commentary about you is a projection of themselves on to somebody else.
Don’t take criticism from someone that you wouldn’t take advice from.
Another Dr. Dyer saying is that it is always better to be kind that to be right. Most of the time, if other people are talking behind your back, it’s best to just LET it be. In extreme situations it might make sense to hold someone accountable if they are fabricating slanderous lies about you, but even in those situations, it is best to love and let. You will find yourself at peace and free from negative emotional entrapment. You will experience emotional freedom will be in a good mental state when handling the situation.
Otherwise, do not let others’ opinions of you cause a bother. Choose loving thoughts and let it ride. Have a great day!
Love and Let 