But…THOSE People Aren’t Worthy

Imagine a bathroom faucet. Now picture the end of the spout where the water comes out. Have you ever unscrewed the little screen and looked at all of the hard water calcification that you have. It may look like this.

Have you ever noticed the how much better the water flows out after you have cleaned  that nasty crap out of your faucet? Our hearts are very much the same. We all have hardness around our soft centers. But, just like the calcification in our faucets and shower heads, we can clean the outer edges of our hearts. We can knock that hardness off and, just like the water coming out of our faucet, our life will begin to flow more smoothly and easily with less of a broken stream.

Think about a relationship that causes you strife. Maybe someone at work at seems to always be working against you or maybe someone in your family that always finds a way to blame you for their problems. Consider how thoughts about and interactions with this person make you feel inside. Your blood pressure raises, your heart rate increased; maybe you feel  anxiety or queasiness when you imagine speaking to this person.

Now what is the most loving thought that you can have in this situation? Before you try answering that question, dig deep into your soul and answer these questions: Do you believe that you should judge other people? Do you believe that your judgments of other people should be the determining factor of their worth? Do you think this person that you are thinking of should be denied love in their life because of your judgments or could it be that they are actually in need of a little additional support? Do you believe in the concept of unconditional love for all?

Everyone is fighting a battle of which you know nothing about. When people say derogatory things about other people, it is always a reflection about how they (deep down) feel about themselves. Harsh words and character assassinations are swords and shields that are used to try to hide feelings of low self-worth, incompetence, and insecurity. People that constantly attack other people are actually those among us that are most in need of kindness because they are always hurting on the inside.

Now back to the question: What is the most loving thought you can have about someone that causes you unease? The answer is probably something like “This person needs and deserves love.” Maybe it is “It wouldn’t kill me to be kind to them; they probably really need it.”

Now you ask yourself: What is the most loving thing you can say (to this person)? Ugh, no way. I am not going to go through all the trouble of actually, purposefully saying something nice. They don’t deserve it (because I have judged them as unworthy). Wait…what?? Maybe the most loving thing that you can do, then, next time you encounter your trouble person is just one simple, loving, beautiful word. “Hi.”.

Lastly: What is the most loving thing you can do? A hug? Forget it! I am done reading this stupid blog. Puke! Okay, maybe you don’t need to touch this person. But…maybe you could work up a smile?

If you release your judgments of other people, especially those people that trouble you most, then you can slowly start to remove the remove the calcification around your heart. You can make the conscious choice to begin with a screwdriver and hammer and to start chipping away at the hardness that you have been building for years.

The end result is  living in a state of natural flow. Like the water in a clean faucet, life and love will more easily flow through you and what comes out of you will be more pure  – more truly you.